You need things to be clear and understandable. Everything you do must be crystal clear for you to move forward and take action. You will take in lots of information so that you are clear on what is needed or wanted and then you make it clear for others. You understand that when things are clear you can make better decisions and move in the right direction. 

You use analogies and metaphors to share your views in an interesting and unique manner. You feel successful when you’re confident that your message has been fully understood and received; you want to reach a place of clarity and understanding before decisions are made and people move forward with a plan of action.

The challenge that comes with the HOW of Clarify are that sometimes your need for things to be clear can border on fanatical. While it can be a good thing when it comes to expressing yourself and your needs, it may come across sometimes as a bit overbearing if not kept in check. You may find that you’re repeating yourself by explaining something to someone for a second or third time despite the fact that they have expressed to you that they have heard or understood your message or point. You may also need to gather so much information in order to be clear that you could slow progress and forward movement which can cause frustrations for others that want to go faster.

The solutions to the challenges facing those with they HOW of Clarify can be very simple. Because you are masterful with your speaking abilities, this tends to get in the way of listening and unfortunately this is a skill that you must cultivate. Listen, verify and move on. Listen for when someone expresses that they have heard you and understand you, quickly verify that they do and then trust that in fact they did. This will allow you to move on to other subjects and not get bogged down in extensive and repetitive conversations. This might be something as simple as asking them to repeat what they heard from you so that you’re sure they heard it correctly.

In relationships, you strive to make sure that you have been fully understood and heard. You ask a lot of questions in order to make sure things are clear. This can be great for follow through, as well as for making sure everyone is on the same page. This also helps keep upsets to a minimum, as everyone sees and understands the same thing. People know when you have achieved clarity, as you are able to move forward positively and with passion.  This could seem condescending and annoying to others, especially if they don’t understand your HOW and the reason you are explaining at such great depth. As they learn ways to let you know you have been clearly understood, you will be able to move forward faster and keep the relationship positive!

Where clarity is wanted and needed, you will be valued. If your team members understand you and the reason why you are asking so many questions they will quickly learn to appreciate you. They will see that they can come to you for help in making their own communications clear and effective, and they’ll also know when they shouldn’t come to you. If others don’t know your HOW, you may be viewed as someone that slows everything down, as you’re constantly asking tons of questions. To salvage the problem – and relationships – make sure they know your HOW is Clarify!